Notes From The Therapist

One of the common mistakes made by people caring for Alzheimer's patients is trying to prove to the patient that they have Alzheimer's. Presenting evidence, using logic, and arguing will not work. If they don't see it, they don't see it. You have to live in their reality, and go with whatever they think is true and whatever they can handle believing.

Agree with her as much as possible. Don't aggravate or frustrate her. Try to give as much positive affirmation as possible and help her feel validated. "I take care of myself!" "Yes, Graham, I noticed you fed the dogs this morning," and then change the subject to something she can talk about comfortably, such as the past.

Also, recognize her feelings. "I hear your frustration." "I see that you're angry." "That must be scary to you." She needs to feel like her feelings are being heard.

These are both ideas to keep her a tiny bit more cooperative, hopefully. The more frustrated she gets, the more we argue with her, the more we try to convince her she's wrong, the harder this transition will be. Keep her as happy as possible.