Things She Can, And Should, Do

Wash dishes.
Fold laundry.
Chop vegetables.
Make the bed.
Feed the dogs.
Make the coffee (you might have to covertly re-make it).
Shred paper for the recycle bin (with her hands).
Get the paper/mail.

I'll list other things as I observe them. She feels really good about herself when you let her do things. If she asks you if you'd like some water, YES, you do. If she asks you if you'd like coffee, no, thank you, but may I have some water? Validate, validate, validate. The difference in her attitude is obvious when she's feeling validated vs. frustrated.